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Are You Intentional With What You Want?

One of my goals this year is to be intentional about the things I want in my life. Part of that is having healthy, growing relationships. Some with those I already know and love and for those I don’t know yet. I believe with anything in life, if you want it badly enough, you have to be willing to do the work

… my want and end goal was stronger than my temporary discomfort and possible long-term regret. -Renee B (Nays Voice)

Have you ever had a moment when you kept saying you were something. Then when placed in the position to be it, it was uncomfortable. Well, that was me. It was as if I was standing in time as my words and time collided. I had a choice to either run or step up to the plate. I stepped up to the plate because my want and end goal was stronger than my temporary discomfort and possible long-term regret.

Since we’re intentional about other things we do in life; such as choosing a job, school, home…why not in developing relationships we want?

I didn’t say it was easy or that it was the most comfortable thing but I will say the reward is so great. Whether the person reciprocate the action and feeling or not, your able to learn from the situation and still grow.

So here’s my story and how I did it.

I have a cousin who lives in Florida that knew who me and my sisters were but we didn’t know him. A few months ago my eldest sister (Jay) met him for the first time at his wedding. I actually think major events is a great opportunity to connect or reconnect with people you’ve never met or haven’t seen in a while. Due to the fact there is so much happening, that if your uncomfortable you can exit a conversation gracefully but if its going great you have the whole event to connect.

–okay back to my story.

While Jay was there she called me via FaceTime (go technology!) to introduce us. We hit it off instantly and set up a time to meet since I was heading to Florida in a few months. We made plans and kept in touch until then.

Did it require me to do something I’ve never done before and be out of my comfort zone? Yes, I had to rent a car for which I’ve never done before. I had to drive in Florida, which I’ve never done before but I made it (Thank you God :)).

Now I speak to my cousins on a consistent basis and all three of us are intentional. I forgot to mention I met his amazing wife.

So I say take this chance to share love, be intentional and grow in areas in your life. I believe this is only a fraction of abundance in life to come.

Until next time, I’ll be #LivingACTIVELY while #ActivelyLIVING.

Be intentional and be blessed!

Check out some of my photos from Florida on my Instagram account here.


  • Reply LC @ A Life of Authenticity May 1, 2017 at 6:42 pm

    Congrats on overcoming that temporary hurdle and pushing to the other side where you were able to fully experience new relationships. AWESOME!! That’s #activelyliving right there!!

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:51 pm

      yes! totally is and I’m searching for the next opportunity.

  • Reply Keisha May 2, 2017 at 12:23 am

    Intentional living is important. I have been living with purpose and intention for a few years now. Thanks for sharing

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:51 pm

      you’re welcome!

  • Reply Joanna May 2, 2017 at 10:42 am

    This post reminded me of out talk the other day. I’ve become a lot more intentional business wise and still working on the personal side.

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:46 pm

      LOL this is actually one of the main reason why we had that conversation. I really think it can be applied in all parts of life.

  • Reply Mimi Green May 2, 2017 at 2:03 pm

    I’ve tried to be more intentional about things going on in my life. In business, in particular, so far so good.

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:47 pm

      I’m seeing you doing it and it looks great. Keep going!

  • Reply Tiffani G May 2, 2017 at 10:33 pm

    How awesome to be reunited with family! When we step outside of our comfort zones, we can accomplish great things! How was the drive?

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:48 pm

      I’m determined to continue stepping out of my comfort zone to grow and accomplish great things. The drive was smooth especially once you leave out of Miami.

  • Reply Jennfier May 3, 2017 at 1:31 am

    I think this is so great of you to to focus on being intentional in your relationships! This is something I have been struggling with for many years. I have no idea where to start or how to maintain a relationship with family I do not know very well. My father has children from previous marriages and it’s been really awkward for my sister and I to try and connect with our half siblings. I hope one day I can be more like you and find a way to connect with my family.

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:42 pm

      Jennifer, that is a whole other ball game I feel. I think half siblings could either be really easy or not in creating a relationship. However, what I’ve learned from my experience is that both parties have to want to be in a relationship with each other. Both parties have to take the steps together. Try again, talk with your sister and even pray on it to help.

  • Reply Evelyn Reese May 3, 2017 at 3:15 pm

    Beautiful story and be intentional in relationships can be uncomfortable especially if we have never met the person. Great Job and I am happy that your relationships with your cousin have been so rewarding.

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:37 pm

      Me too:) its going strong and I’m grateful.

  • Reply Anitra May 3, 2017 at 7:45 pm

    I’m a firm believer in making relationships intentional. Much of it starts with being willing to learn yourself and the other enough to make the changes needed for the relationship to grow.

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:05 pm

      very true. It takes choices

  • Reply Becc Smith May 3, 2017 at 11:19 pm

    I definitely try to practice being more intentional by setting goals and not letting the day pass me by. Thanks for sharing your story.

    • Reply Nay May 4, 2017 at 9:02 pm

      keep doing it, step by step

  • Reply Toiia L. Rukuni May 5, 2017 at 8:02 am

    I firmly believe in being intentional about everything in my life. I find that when you do things with intent they are more likely to happen in a positive and fruitful way in life. When setting goals being intentional is a great way to get things done!

    • Reply Nay May 12, 2017 at 9:38 am

      very true. Especially when communication with people. It helps to have good/pure intentions driving it.

  • Reply LeShelle, host of MRTV May 5, 2017 at 3:50 pm

    Great advice. Pushing our boundaries and past our fears is living life abundantly.

    • Reply Nay May 12, 2017 at 9:36 am

      very true statement indeed.

  • Reply MJ May 7, 2017 at 11:43 am

    I am finally getting back to me and the way I want to focus and be intentional in my life. Writing down what I am grateful for and what I want in my life in specific detail has been helping me feel good, stay on track and realize some goals I have.

    • Reply Nay May 12, 2017 at 9:38 am

      keep going and don’t let anything distract you. Only allow things to propel you to your next level and dreams.

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